Having been reintroduced to the dating scene over the last 3 years, I've come across a lot of fellow singles who are searching for their "soulmate", that one person who is in perfect synch with them. My sarcastic side wants to scoff at this idea, but my romantic side wants desperately to believe that a woman exists out there that's my soulmate (but of course, she has to be tall...). Then again, I just flashed on the "Seinfeld" episode where Jerry thought he found the perfect woman for himself, but he finally realized that she was exactly like him, different only in gender. Is everyone else here looking for their soulmate? Would you settle for less?
Having been reintroduced to the dating scene over the last 3 years, I've come across a lot of fellow singles who are searching for their "soulmate", that one person who is in perfect synch with them. My sarcastic side wants to scoff at this idea, but my romantic side wants desperately to believe that a woman exists out there that's my soulmate (but of course, she has to be tall...). Then again, I just flashed on the "Seinfeld" episode where Jerry thought he found the perfect woman for himself, but he finally realized that she was exactly like him, different only in gender. Is everyone else here looking for their soulmate? Would you settle for less?
There is more than one soul mate out there for you. In fact, there can be many. Everyone who enters your life is a soul mate whose very purpose in entering your life is to help you to heal, to learn and to grow--to be a better person and to evolve personally and spiritually, whatever that means to you. A soul mate can come for a brief time or you can be with that person throughout your lifetime until your death or their death. Believing that there is only ONE soulmate for you makes it a difficult proposition to continue living after the breakup with someone you considered to be your one soulmate. In order to answer the question, "Is there one soulmate out there for me?" you must define what a soulmate is. Most people have the term "soulmate" ill-defined.
There is more than one soul mate out there for you. In fact, there can be many. Everyone who enters your life is a soul mate whose very purpose in entering your life is to help you to heal, to learn and to grow--to be a better person and to evolve personally and spiritually, whatever that means to you. A soul mate can come for a brief time or you can be with that person throughout your lifetime until your death or their death. Believing that there is only ONE soulmate for you makes it a difficult proposition to continue living after the breakup with someone you considered to be your one soulmate. In order to answer the question, "Is there one soulmate out there for me?" you must define what a soulmate is. Most people have the term "soulmate" ill-defined.
I think it really comes down to knowing who you are, before you can really expect another person to want to get to know you. I do believe there are some that meet, and whamo! it's just real, and good, and continues to build... but, I do not think that is the "usual", and I can see how we all hope for it to happen to us at some point, but, more than likely it's not going too. So, I'm back to the starting point, knowing yourself, and what you have to offer, what you desire, what you can live with, and can not live without... these are all so important in finding a person who is compatible with us, and once you have a real good "dose of reality" about who you are, what you have to offer, as a person, a lover, a partner... and I'm really not talking about what you have to offer materialistically. I'm talking about the level of true intimacy your comfortable with and are willing to "put out" there in order to find someone who shares like-minded values, morals, interests, things like that. I hope for a man who will encourage me to be the best I can be, and wants the same from me. Someone who is willing to look at the whole picture, someone who has taken the time to find out what is important to him, and wants to take the time to find out what's important to me, and if we are looking to experience the same type of journey... So many have unrealistic preconceived notions of finding "perfection". I just want someone who wants to share a part of himself with me, and wants the same from me... to find out if we seek to share and build similar "ideals"... I hope for the passion, the warmth, the knowing that they will always be there to do what ever "WE" need to do to keep us traveling forward, not backwards. I'm an idealistic, romantic, and loving woman who thought she wasn't looking for too much, yet, I haven't found a possible partner who truly wants to start to explore the "possibility" process... Here's...
I think it really comes down to knowing who you are, before you can really expect another person to want to get to know you. I do believe there are some that meet, and whamo! it's just real, and good, and continues to build... but, I do not think that is the "usual", and I can see how we all hope for it to happen to us at some point, but, more than likely it's not going too. So, I'm back to the starting point, knowing yourself, and what you have to offer, what you desire, what you can live with, and can not live without... these are all so important in finding a person who is compatible with us, and once you have a real good "dose of reality" about who you are, what you have to offer, as a person, a lover, a partner... and I'm really not talking about what you have to offer materialistically. I'm talking about the level of true intimacy your comfortable with and are willing to "put out" there in order to find someone who shares like-minded values, morals, interests, things like that. I hope for a man who will encourage me to be the best I can be, and wants the same from me. Someone who is willing to look at the whole picture, someone who has taken the time to find out what is important to him, and wants to take the time to find out what's important to me, and if we are looking to experience the same type of journey... So many have unrealistic preconceived notions of finding "perfection". I just want someone who wants to share a part of himself with me, and wants the same from me... to find out if we seek to share and build similar "ideals"... I hope for the passion, the warmth, the knowing that they will always be there to do what ever "WE" need to do to keep us traveling forward, not backwards. I'm an idealistic, romantic, and loving woman who thought she wasn't looking for too much, yet, I haven't found a possible partner who truly wants to start to explore the "possibility" process... Here's...
Gary, I used to hope to find a soulmate, but, after 53 yrs of being single, I realize, that a person can be a soulmate, only part of the time! I now believe, that we find our soul needs, through a number of friends, including pets, people, and a Higher Power. No one person, can be that ideal soulmate all the time. Any soulmate, would have to be very patient, longsuffering, and forgiving, , just as we would have to be with her. My closest soulmate, My white cat, Katy, died in my arms, July 8th. She and I had been together, for 13 yrs, and she was 21. That cat, was a soulmate, and, I cried, and grieve her passing.
Gary, I used to hope to find a soulmate, but, after 53 yrs of being single, I realize, that a person can be a soulmate, only part of the time! I now believe, that we find our soul needs, through a number of friends, including pets, people, and a Higher Power. No one person, can be that ideal soulmate all the time. Any soulmate, would have to be very patient, longsuffering, and forgiving, , just as we would have to be with her. My closest soulmate, My white cat, Katy, died in my arms, July 8th. She and I had been together, for 13 yrs, and she was 21. That cat, was a soulmate, and, I cried, and grieve her passing.
So many people that I have met since getting back into dating have said that they had found and lost their soul mate. I wonder if that is possible; to loose a soul mate? I for one am determined to settle for nothing less than love. Defined as; I know it when I feel it. (Having been lucky enough to have been in love before.) I don't really believe in the concept of perfect but I do believe in acceptance of the whole person for who they are and seeing them with both romantic and unromantic eyes. I am optimistic but at times I tire of the whole search/dating scene. There are so many very nice people out there....Anyone near Oregon?
So many people that I have met since getting back into dating have said that they had found and lost their soul mate. I wonder if that is possible; to loose a soul mate? I for one am determined to settle for nothing less than love. Defined as; I know it when I feel it. (Having been lucky enough to have been in love before.) I don't really believe in the concept of perfect but I do believe in acceptance of the whole person for who they are and seeing them with both romantic and unromantic eyes. I am optimistic but at times I tire of the whole search/dating scene. There are so many very nice people out there....Anyone near Oregon?
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