why are most men intimidated by woman that are taller than then i am 6'3 and i have ran into men that were 6'3 and still didnt feel right they said so men tell me what you think to me i dont even care any more if you like me great if not thats ok also but there was a day that it sure messed with me
why are most men intimidated by woman that are taller than then i am 6'3 and i have ran into men that were 6'3 and still didnt feel right they said so men tell me what you think to me i dont even care any more if you like me great if not thats ok also but there was a day that it sure messed with me
It is such a rarity to find another person over 6' in this society, let alone a woman of similar height. When it is possible to meet a taller woman I hope to be man enough to overlook the height difference and look at their character and beauty first. I'm not saying I won't be intimidated, just that I hope to put my insecurities asside for the time and concentrate on the person.
It is such a rarity to find another person over 6' in this society, let alone a woman of similar height. When it is possible to meet a taller woman I hope to be man enough to overlook the height difference and look at their character and beauty first. I'm not saying I won't be intimidated, just that I hope to put my insecurities asside for the time and concentrate on the person.
2tall, my guess is those taller women at your church couldn't find taller men when they were looking and the shorter ones approached the taller women and voila--a relationship ensued. Relationships appear to be evermore complicated, especially as we age. I'm getting this impression from the dating sites that I've seen. Oh well, I'm off to the gym! "I'll be back again someday."
2tall, my guess is those taller women at your church couldn't find taller men when they were looking and the shorter ones approached the taller women and voila--a relationship ensued. Relationships appear to be evermore complicated, especially as we age. I'm getting this impression from the dating sites that I've seen. Oh well, I'm off to the gym! "I'll be back again someday."
Hi! I am in a small church, and, there are only a few tall guys. A few tall gals, are married, to shorter men. This has always been the sad case, everywhere i have gone- tall gals, with shorter men, and only short, rotund women interested in me. I am holding out, for a lady, at least 5'7", as i am 6'6"
Hi! I am in a small church, and, there are only a few tall guys. A few tall gals, are married, to shorter men. This has always been the sad case, everywhere i have gone- tall gals, with shorter men, and only short, rotund women interested in me. I am holding out, for a lady, at least 5'7", as i am 6'6"
Despite tmclpn's daunting "my tall brothers have no such insecurities" comment, I will admit to "insecurity" around both men & women that are at least as tall as me. Growing up skinny, most guys (and some women) can still take me in a fight, so I think on a base level my intimidation is natural. My adult sense of security notices then moves on.
When a man is accustomed to being the tallest in the room and RARELY encounters a woman as tall... I hope women will allow that they may never understand some men's reaction to this, just as we'll never understand many women's issues. It's probably different for stronger guys, which I can't relate to, either.
When it comes to women and romance, it is challenging enough for me to feel like a protector without my lady being too tall and/or big. But I am on this site because I'm praying for a leggy wife... and heels are great, too, but not necessary :)
Despite tmclpn's daunting "my tall brothers have no such insecurities" comment, I will admit to "insecurity" around both men & women that are at least as tall as me. Growing up skinny, most guys (and some women) can still take me in a fight, so I think on a base level my intimidation is natural. My adult sense of security notices then moves on. When a man is accustomed to being the tallest in the room and RARELY encounters a woman as tall... I hope women will allow that they may never understand some men's reaction to this, just as we'll never understand many women's issues. It's probably different for stronger guys, which I can't relate to, either. When it comes to women and romance, it is challenging enough for me to feel like a protector without my lady being too tall and/or big. But I am on this site because I'm praying for a leggy wife... and heels are great, too, but not necessary :)
I'm new, and I see that nobody has added to this Blog since July, so I hope that does not indicate that nobody looks at this anymore. I am 6 foot 8 inches, and my whole life, people have given me a hard time about my height. I get the same as the other comments that I see such as "How tall ARE you?" "How's the weather up there?" A good day for me seemed to be a day that I could go an entire day with everybody treating me like I was normal, a day with no comments. It is especially embarrassing when you are with somebody else and they hear what you go through. I was married for almost 20 years, but when I was younger, and before I was married, I would go to bars, and guys that had been drinking too much were even worse. That is when I started lifting weights, and as I got bigger, the comments slowed way down. Anyway, I am now 52 years old now and recently divorced (the divorced comment doesn't really have anything to do with this story, I just wanted to tell somebody). What my point is, now that I am 52, it has dawned on me that I think maybe the reason that people think that it is OK to ask "How tall ARE you?", when they would never ask an overweight person, "How much do you weigh?",is because they are not seeing my height as any type of handicap that I should be embarrassed about, so in their mind, I shouldn't take that as an insult. I might be wrong, but that is what I am thinking.
I'm new, and I see that nobody has added to this Blog since July, so I hope that does not indicate that nobody looks at this anymore. I am 6 foot 8 inches, and my whole life, people have given me a hard time about my height. I get the same as the other comments that I see such as "How tall ARE you?" "How's the weather up there?" A good day for me seemed to be a day that I could go an entire day with everybody treating me like I was normal, a day with no comments. It is especially embarrassing when you are with somebody else and they hear what you go through. I was married for almost 20 years, but when I was younger, and before I was married, I would go to bars, and guys that had been drinking too much were even worse. That is when I started lifting weights, and as I got bigger, the comments slowed way down. Anyway, I am now 52 years old now and recently divorced (the divorced comment doesn't really have anything to do with this story, I just wanted to tell somebody). What my point is, now that I am 52, it has dawned on me that I think maybe the reason that people think that it is OK to ask "How tall ARE you?", when they would never ask an overweight person, "How much do you weigh?",is because they are not seeing my height as any type of handicap that I should be embarrassed about, so in their mind, I shouldn't take that as an insult. I might be wrong, but that is what I am thinking.
Hi all~ was reading mad1995's feelings on 'why is it socially acceptable for people to make stupid tall comments'. I'm 6'1" so i certainly have heard them all myself. I do remember one time when I was young..out at the store with my mom. She was 5'11", and this very overweight woman behind us on the checkout line yells out...wow...how tall are you? Well, my mom very calmly said..oh, I'm 5'11" and how much to you weigh??? LOLOL...well that woman, along with many others were just appalled that my mom asked that!!! The only difference I see, is that we can't help that we're tall...I read once in an interview with one of the NBA members, asking how he handled all the tall comments...he said that when someone asked 'how's the weather up there'...he would look down, spit, and say "it's raining"!!
Hi all~ was reading mad1995's feelings on 'why is it socially acceptable for people to make stupid tall comments'. I'm 6'1" so i certainly have heard them all myself. I do remember one time when I was young..out at the store with my mom. She was 5'11", and this very overweight woman behind us on the checkout line yells out...wow...how tall are you? Well, my mom very calmly said..oh, I'm 5'11" and how much to you weigh??? LOLOL...well that woman, along with many others were just appalled that my mom asked that!!! The only difference I see, is that we can't help that we're tall...I read once in an interview with one of the NBA members, asking how he handled all the tall comments...he said that when someone asked 'how's the weather up there'...he would look down, spit, and say "it's raining"!!
legs... I think this site and Tall clubs on the net are a good outlet for you and something to look into for your son. I did a quick search on Tall teen clubs and several things came up. Your son will have a rough time and it's important for him to find other teens with height. Those other teens will understand the challenges, frustrations and issues that your son is experiencing. It's a double standard that ALL of us are taught not to say stupid things to a short person... like calling someone shorty, midget or dwarf... after all, it's not politically correct. However, I haven't heard anything in our society to be careful on what to say or what not to call a tall child. When there's a fight between two or more kids, it's always the "big" kid that gets in trouble. There are so many times when it's the short kids who start something and even cause harm (hitting or throwing something) to the tall kid, but as soon as the "big" kid defends himself/herself... the punishment comes down on the tallest of the two. Self-esteem is so difficult for kids anyway, and to have something extraordinary about ourselves (like being fabulously 6'11" tall) really feels like a burden and that we feel there's something wrong with us. Legs, the men in your area would be intimidated by you because of your height - coupled with you're young, beautiful and sexy... and if you have the confidence to fill that 6'3" body, then you'll stand out for sure. The tall remarks people make are out of ignorance, so we just need more clever comebacks. There's a book idea!
legs... I think this site and Tall clubs on the net are a good outlet for you and something to look into for your son. I did a quick search on Tall teen clubs and several things came up. Your son will have a rough time and it's important for him to find other teens with height. Those other teens will understand the challenges, frustrations and issues that your son is experiencing. It's a double standard that ALL of us are taught not to say stupid things to a short person... like calling someone shorty, midget or dwarf... after all, it's not politically correct. However, I haven't heard anything in our society to be careful on what to say or what not to call a tall child. When there's a fight between two or more kids, it's always the "big" kid that gets in trouble. There are so many times when it's the short kids who start something and even cause harm (hitting or throwing something) to the tall kid, but as soon as the "big" kid defends himself/herself... the punishment comes down on the tallest of the two. Self-esteem is so difficult for kids anyway, and to have something extraordinary about ourselves (like being fabulously 6'11" tall) really feels like a burden and that we feel there's something wrong with us. Legs, the men in your area would be intimidated by you because of your height - coupled with you're young, beautiful and sexy... and if you have the confidence to fill that 6'3" body, then you'll stand out for sure. The tall remarks people make are out of ignorance, so we just need more clever comebacks. There's a book idea!
Are you kidding? Im 6'4" and the tall women I have met dont care about height and I see them with short guys all the time! One brief relationship with a 6'3"
woman, who left, just made want to only find someone else that tall, even more...
Are you kidding? Im 6'4" and the tall women I have met dont care about height and I see them with short guys all the time! One brief relationship with a 6'3" woman, who left, just made want to only find someone else that tall, even more...
hello to everyone thanks for posting your opinion's and SimplyLovely you are so right it gets to you after awhile of people saying stupid comments thats like i work in a strip club the guy will sit there and say when you getting up there to dance now i know they like me cause they have been in the bar all night talking to just me but why be so stupid to say that i think people dont stop to think what they are saying sometimes. and mad1995 you are so right dont you just love hearing people say wow your tall i think the best is bet you played baskball i hate that one the most out of all the things people can say now my son is going through it he is 6'11 at 15 what an age to have to deal with everything and stupid people at the same time
hello to everyone thanks for posting your opinion's and SimplyLovely you are so right it gets to you after awhile of people saying stupid comments thats like i work in a strip club the guy will sit there and say when you getting up there to dance now i know they like me cause they have been in the bar all night talking to just me but why be so stupid to say that i think people dont stop to think what they are saying sometimes. and mad1995 you are so right dont you just love hearing people say wow your tall i think the best is bet you played baskball i hate that one the most out of all the things people can say now my son is going through it he is 6'11 at 15 what an age to have to deal with everything and stupid people at the same time
mad1995... exactly! My comment about backhanded compliments are like this "gee... that outfit looks so nice on you (wait for the backhand), BUT (with a whine in their voice) anything would look nice on you being tall and slender". I have never once walked up to a shorter person and said "gee.... that outfit looks so nice on you, even though you're 30 lbs overweight". OH, if only they would stop and think. I don't have it near as bad as those of you who are much taller, but I know the affect it's had on the very tall men I've dated. I gotta ask mad1995, do you play.... miniture golf? ;-) I bet you get tired of the other question. AND not all tall men (including my ex at 6'3") has the coordination to play BB. We do have the advantage though, we can reach most anything off the top shelf!
mad1995... exactly! My comment about backhanded compliments are like this "gee... that outfit looks so nice on you (wait for the backhand), BUT (with a whine in their voice) anything would look nice on you being tall and slender". I have never once walked up to a shorter person and said "gee.... that outfit looks so nice on you, even though you're 30 lbs overweight". OH, if only they would stop and think. I don't have it near as bad as those of you who are much taller, but I know the affect it's had on the very tall men I've dated. I gotta ask mad1995, do you play.... miniture golf? ;-) I bet you get tired of the other question. AND not all tall men (including my ex at 6'3") has the coordination to play BB. We do have the advantage though, we can reach most anything off the top shelf!
Hi Legs. I do believe that men are intimidated by tall women and what tmclpn said, it is about their insecurity and confidence. When a tall woman walks into the room... she's noticed. I've dated tall men who, like tall women, were teased as a child and it really affected their self esteem... even in their 40's at 6'6" and 6'8" the self esteem/confidence issue was a problem. I've found that women are intimidated by me - even more than men. The comments although they sound flattering at first usually are backhanded when finished. It's a lot of work being tall... even when we have a bad moment/day/week, etc. we have to take care in what's happening because we can't just slip into a crowd of people to gather ourselves and keep tears from welling up in our eyes. No pitty parties though, it's just something we have to work out.
Hi Legs. I do believe that men are intimidated by tall women and what tmclpn said, it is about their insecurity and confidence. When a tall woman walks into the room... she's noticed. I've dated tall men who, like tall women, were teased as a child and it really affected their self esteem... even in their 40's at 6'6" and 6'8" the self esteem/confidence issue was a problem. I've found that women are intimidated by me - even more than men. The comments although they sound flattering at first usually are backhanded when finished. It's a lot of work being tall... even when we have a bad moment/day/week, etc. we have to take care in what's happening because we can't just slip into a crowd of people to gather ourselves and keep tears from welling up in our eyes. No pitty parties though, it's just something we have to work out.
Hi ........I think term "insecure" should be used, not "uneasy". All my brothers are taller than myself and not one of them has this issue. If anything they have fallen for smart independant women.
Hi ........I think term "insecure" should be used, not "uneasy". All my brothers are taller than myself and not one of them has this issue. If anything they have fallen for smart independant women.
I don't believe it is intimidation as much as the uncertainty of a new and strange situation. I am 6'6" and in 55 years have not been around too many women my height. The few that came close, (6'0 to 6'3") were so far and few between, that it made me uncomfortable because I had always been the one who towered over everyone especially women. I have the same feeling of uncertainty around other men who were taller than I.
I don't believe it is intimidation as much as the uncertainty of a new and strange situation. I am 6'6" and in 55 years have not been around too many women my height. The few that came close, (6'0 to 6'3") were so far and few between, that it made me uncomfortable because I had always been the one who towered over everyone especially women. I have the same feeling of uncertainty around other men who were taller than I.
I can tell you that I have never met a woman taller than me, but I love women who are over 6' tall. There's not near as much bending down to kiss them. When we dance, I can actually look you in the eye, instead of you staring at my chest or stomach (as with short women). But to answer your question, men in general are much more insecure about themselves than women, especially when it comes to "macho" physical statistics like height, strength, etc. So men get intimidated by taller women and don't feel as secure in their manhood.
I can tell you that I have never met a woman taller than me, but I love women who are over 6' tall. There's not near as much bending down to kiss them. When we dance, I can actually look you in the eye, instead of you staring at my chest or stomach (as with short women). But to answer your question, men in general are much more insecure about themselves than women, especially when it comes to "macho" physical statistics like height, strength, etc. So men get intimidated by taller women and don't feel as secure in their manhood.
